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Everywhere you look, someone is encouraging you to purchase something you more than likely do not need. Overconsumption is a major issue globally, leading to cluttered homes, wasted resources, and unnecessary expenses. Adopting mindful habits can help you prevent overconsumption and create a more sustainable and organized living space. Here are ten habits to start implementing today: Use few organizing items Overconsumption has been rebranded as organized and cute. Those restocking videos are the embodiment of overconsumption making them unrealistic and costly. Learn how to organize your space without the use of expensive organizing items and help the planet in the process. Select timeless decor Purchase items that are versatile for year-round use, adapting them as needed for different seasons. While it’s tempting to decorate for every holiday, focus on acquiring a few accent pieces. This habit curbs impulse buying and ensures you only obtain things you truly need or genuinely desire. Declutter Regularly Set aside time each month to declutter your home. Go through your belongings and donate, recycle, or discard items you no longer use or need. Regular decluttering, especially in small spaces help you keep track of what you own and prevents you from accumulating unnecessary items. Thrift By choosing secondhand items, you extend the lifecycle of products. Thrift stores offer a wide variety of unique and affordable options, allowing you to find quality pieces. Being mindful of your purchases not only benefits the environment but also promotes sustainable living and thoughtful consumption habits. Repurpose and Reuse Before discarding items, think about how they can be repurposed or reused. Glass jars can be used for storage, old clothes that cannot be donated can become cleaning rags, and furniture can be refurbished. All it takes is a little creative thinking to reduces waste. Create a Shopping List Get in the habit of writing down items as soon as you notice they are finished, or when the need arises on your phone or any other writing tool. This will create an up-to-date shopping list before running your errands. Stick to the list to avoid impulse buys and unnecessary items. This simple habit can significantly reduce overconsumption and save you money. Cook at Home Frequent dining out or ordering takeout often results in food waste and excessive packaging. Cooking at home more often than not, allows you to better control portions and ingredients, reducing food waste and fostering healthier eating habits. It’s a win win. Limit Single-Use Products Reduce your reliance on single-use products like plastic bags, disposable utensils, and paper towels as much as you can. Opt for reusable alternatives such as reusable bags, metal cutlery, and cloth napkins. This habit significantly cuts down on waste. Be Mindful of Energy Use Overconsumption isn't limited to physical items. Be mindful of your energy use by turning off lights, unplugging devices when not in use, and using energy-efficient appliances. Reducing energy consumption lowers utility bills and your carbon footprint. Educate Yourself and Your Family Learn about the environmental and financial impacts of overconsumption. Share this knowledge with your family and encourage everyone to adopt mindful habits. Being informed empowers you to make better choices and foster a culture of sustainability at home. You have to be mindful and intentional about overconsumption. By adopting these ten habits, you can create a more sustainable lifestyle, reduce waste, and enjoy a clutter-free home. Small changes can make a big difference, leading to a more fulfilling and environmentally-friendly way of living.

I own a 2014 Chevy sedan and that means technology is lacking severely. I had to purchase a wireless FM transmitter and car charger to get us into modern times. Prior to the purchase, we listened to the radio for a few days, but after I bought the transmitter the girls wanted me to play DJ while driving. I wanted no part of that, nor did I want to listen to the argument that would eventually erupt about music choices if I handed them the phone in the back seat. I came to the conclusion that we will be listening to the radio in my car. We fell in love with one station, and the girls love most of the music they play. I am talking about the music of my childhood from the 80s, 90s and early 2000s and almost every genre. Some of their favorites songs come from Spandau Ballet ( True ), Bon Jovi ( You Give Love a Bad Name), Bill Medley and Jennifer Warnes ( I’ve Had the Time of my Life) , Prince ( Kiss ), Britney Spears ( Baby One More Time ) among many others. They’ve also told me to bring the volume down a couple of times in utter disgust with some songs, but seeing them appreciate the music I grew up on reinforced my belief that children should listen to as many different genres of music as possible. Dad’s favorite genre is country music, reggae, calypso and great ballads, while I am a full fledged R&B head of the 90s and early 2000s along with hip hop of that era, soca, bluegrass, house music, classical music, old school dancehall and some rock music. They hear it all. My girls are currently obsessed with Daniel Jang , especially since my older daughter is going to play the violin in the next school year. He serves as background music for us during dinner. In a time where streaming services allow children to gravitate towards familiar sounds and playlists, it can inadvertently create musical echo chambers. The humble radio, on the other hand, too often overlooked in the digital era, presents a unique opportunity for children to expand their musical horizons. Here’s why children should embrace the radio to enhance their knowledge and appreciation of diverse music. Exposure to a Variety of Genres Streaming services algorithms recommend music based on previous listens, which often leads children to stick to the same genres and artists. The radio, however, offers a curated experience by DJs who play a mix of music from different genres, eras, and cultures. This diversity can introduce children to new sounds and styles they might not encounter otherwise. This exposure broadens their musical palette and helps them appreciate the vast landscape of music. Educational Content and Insights Many radio stations, especially public and educational ones, provide context and commentary about the music they play. DJs and hosts often share interesting anecdotes, historical contexts, and behind-the-scenes stories about artists and songs. This information enriches the listening experience and transforms passive listening into an engaging educational activity. Encourages Active Listening Streaming services often promote passive listening, where music serves as background noise while doing other activities. Radio, however, encourages active listening, as children tune in to hear what's next. This anticipation can enhance their listening skills and attention spans. Active listening helps children develop critical thinking skills. It also cultivates patience and curiosity. Community Connection Radio stations often serve as a voice for local communities, highlighting regional artists, events, and news. Listening to local radio can help children feel more connected to their surroundings and develop a sense of community pride. They might learn about upcoming concerts or cultural festivals, fostering a greater desire to engage with their community. Cultivating a Balanced Media Diet Just as a balanced diet is essential for physical health, a balanced media diet is crucial for intellectual and cultural development. Streaming services limit exposure to new and diverse content, therefore, integrating radio into children’s media consumption habits provides a counterbalance to the algorithm-driven selections of streaming platforms. This helps cultivate well-rounded individuals with diverse tastes and knowledge. Reducing Screen Time Children are increasingly glued to screens, so listening to the radio allows them to engage with audio content without the need for visual stimulation. This promotes better mental and physical health. Reducing screen time can improve sleep and enhance focus. While streaming services offer convenience and customization, they can also limit children’s exposure to new and diverse sounds. Therefore, encouraging children to listen to the radio can broaden their musical horizons, enrich their knowledge, and foster a deeper appreciation for the art form. By integrating radio into their media diet, we can help them become well-rounded individuals with a rich and diverse understanding of music. So, next time you’re looking for something to listen to, consider tuning in to the radio. (Photos by Skynesher /iStock)

Summer in the Capital Region means sun-soaked days, warm evenings, and a perfect opportunity to splash around in some of the area’s best public pools. Whether you’re looking for a place to cool off, let the kids burn off some energy, or simply enjoy a relaxing swim, the Capital Region has you covered. Here are three public pools that the girls and I have been enjoying and you should consider visiting this season: Central Park Pool in Schenectady Located in Central Park Schenectady, the new $10.1 million city pool which opened June 18, 2024 is becoming a local favorite. This pool features: Peerless Pool:  Ideal for younger swimmers with a maximum depth of 3 ft 6 inches. Deeper Connected Pool:  For older swimmers seeking a swim in deeper waters. Play Area:  A shallow zone for young kids with water features and splash pad. The pool is surrounded by a deck area topped with artificial grass to mark as a gathering spot for families to replace lounge chairs. The surrounding Central Park also offers additional amenities, including a playground and sports courts. Location:  500 Iroquois Way, Schenectady, NY 12305 Hours:  M-F 8am-9am (Lap Swim Only), M-F 12:30pm-6:30pm (Open Swim), S&S 12pm-6pm (Open Swim) Peerless Pool at Saratoga Spa State Park Peerless Pool, a gem in the heart of the picturesque Saratoga Spa State Park hosts a large, well-maintained pool that's perfect for families and individuals alike. Highlights include: Generous Pool Size:  A large pool with ample space for both leisurely swims and active play. Waterslide:  A thrilling feature that adds an extra layer of fun for anyone who can meet the height requirement. Kiddie Pool : A smaller pool for toddlers. Picnic Areas:  Nearby shaded areas and tables make it easy to enjoy a meal before or after swimming. The surrounding state park also offers picturesque walking paths, a playground, and natural springs for a full day of outdoor fun. Location:  19 Roosevelt Dr, Saratoga Springs, NY 12866 Hours:  Daily, 9 AM - 6 PM Colonie Mohawk River Park and Pool Complex Situated in the town of Colonie, this pool is a community favorite and is known for its family-friendly atmosphere. Features include: Olympic Size Pool:  With options for both gentle wading and deeper dives. Kids’ Area:  A special section with water games and features designed for younger swimmers. Facilities:  Bath house, two pavilions, picnic area. Town of Colonie swimming pool also boasts walking, hiking, jogging, and picnic spots, making it a wonderful location for a combined swim and outdoor experience. Location:  71 Schermerhorn Rd, Cohoes, NY 12047 Hours:  Daily, 10:30 AM - 7 PM Final Tips for Pool Visits Bring Sunscreen:  Protect yourself from UV rays, especially during peak sun hours. Stay Hydrated:  Drink plenty of water to stay refreshed. Follow Pool Rules:  Adhere to safety guidelines and regulations for a fun and secure experience. These public pools in the Capital Region offer something for everyone, whether you’re seeking relaxation, recreation, or a day of family fun. Dive in and enjoy the summer! (Photo Central Park Pool/ Times Union , Peerless Pool Saratoga Spa State Park/Facebook , and Colonie Mohawk River Park and Pool Complex)

Motherhood was not something I ever really thought about in my late teens to late 20s. My priority  as a babysitter was to give my best self to the children I cared for. I worked with my last family for almost seven years and it was a career that became a valuable training ground for the most important role of my life: motherhood. Looking back, I realize that many of the skills and insights I gained have been instrumental in shaping my approach to parenting. Transitioning from a babysitter to a parent is a journey filled with surprises, revelations, and growth. I thought I had a solid grasp on what parenting, but becoming a mother has expanded my knowledge in unexpected ways. Here are five unexpected lessons I learned along the way that have shaped my approach to parenting and enriched my family life. Routine Isn't Just About Structure-It's about Security : As a babysitter, I understood that children thrived on routines. I followed nap schedules, mealtime norms, and playtime activities to keep things predictable and manage expectations. However, I didn't fully appreciate until I became a parent how deeply ingrained routines are in providing emotional security. Once I had my own children, I saw firsthand how routines do more than just organize the day—they offer a sense of stability that helps children feel safe and confident. Routine helps minimize anxiety and provides a framework within which children can thrive. It’s not merely about adhering to a schedule but about creating a consistent environment that makes children feel secure and valued. For instance, maintaining a regular bedtime routine has proven to be crucial for my children’s sleep patterns and overall mood, reinforcing their sense of stability. That sense of security also extends to parents as caregivers. As a nanny/babysitter, my schedule hardly ever went up to bedtime with my charges, but as a parent, I got to see how rewarding something like a consistent bedtime is to the well being of parents. It provided a consistent schedule where I can devote time for my nightly home routine and self-care after a long day of being with my children. That was an immense benefit to my overall wellness, especially as a working parent with little help . The Power of Empathy Goes Beyond Listening: The philosophy of my life is to lead with empathy . I carry this belief in everything I do, especially working in childcare. I often practiced empathy by trying to understand the children’s feelings and concerns. I knew that acknowledging their emotions was important, but it wasn’t until I became a parent that I realized how deeply empathy impacts parenting. My level of empathy seemed to have activated on a much deeper level when I became a parent. I became infinitely aware that empathy in parenting is more than just listening—it’s about actively engaging with your child’s emotional world. It means recognizing when your child is feeling overwhelmed or upset and responding with compassion and understanding. This approach fosters a strong, trusting relationship and helps children feel valued. It also teaches them to be empathetic towards others. Through daily interactions, I’ve learned that understanding and validating my children’s emotions helps them navigate their feelings and builds their emotional intelligence. Patience is More Than a Virtue-It's a Necessity: Caring for children taught me the virtue of patience and the power of resilience, especially during challenging moments. It requires a calm demeanor and the ability to adapt to unexpected situations. Reacting impulsively or with frustration only escalated the situation, while a patient approach allowed me to handle challenges more effectively. As a nanny/babysitter, I usually acted as a support system for an overworked and sometimes overwhelmed parents, so I was usually the safe space for the children. I could not anticipate the magnitude to which my children can tests my patience. Overall, I thought I was a very patient person, but when you're a parent, especially a stay at home caretaker with little support or outlets to decompress patience can start to diminish. In moments like being asked endless questions from toddlers to managing the emotional ups and downs of preteens, patience becomes more than just a helpful trait—it’s a fundamental necessity. I’ve learned that staying calm and collected in stressful moments can sometimes be very difficult, but it is crucial. Patience allows me to handle conflicts more effectively and model emotional control for my children, turning potentially volatile situations into opportunities for teaching and growth. Creative Problem-Solving is Essential Daily: In my babysitting days, I often had to come up with creative solutions to keep children entertained or resolve conflicts. I once had a kid stick two small rocks up his nose. Don't ask me how I got it out, but we managed to remove them from his nostril. I thought this was just about managing specific situations, but as a parent, I’ve discovered that creative problem-solving is an everyday necessity. I frequently joke that if my kids are alive with little to no emotional and psychological damage, I did very well that day, because tomorrow is another day. Parenthood frequently presents unique challenges, from dealing with picky eaters to managing sibling rivalry. Applying creative problem-solving skills has helped me approach these challenges with flexibility and innovation. For instance, I turn nightly prayers into a musical performance for my kids so that they now look forward to practicing gratitude routinely. Creativity allows me to adapt to my children’s evolving needs and keeps our family life dynamic and engaging. Self-Care Isn't a Luxury-It's a Requirement: As a babysitter, I was focused on caring for others while still being able to take excellent care of myself. My job did not consume my life so I always prioritized self-care. I assumed that those same standards of care would be attainable even when I became a parent. Unfortunately, I had a rude awakening trying to walk the fine line of caring for the ones I love while taking care of myself, especially when my kids were younger. I did not realize how hard it would be to maintain everything, but at some point, I came to the realization that self-care isn’t just a luxury; it’s essential for effective parenting. Taking time for myself—whether through exercise, hobbies, or simply resting—is crucial for maintaining my well-being. When I neglect my own needs, I find it harder to be present and patient with my children. Prioritizing self-care has not only improved my mood and energy levels but also enhanced my ability to be a supportive and engaged parent. I’ve learned that by caring for myself, I’m better equipped to care for my family. The transition from babysitter to parent is filled with unexpected lessons and growth. While my babysitting experience provided a solid foundation, it was through the daily realities of parenting that I truly understood the depth of these lessons. Reflecting on these insights, I’m grateful for the experiences that have shaped my journey as a mother . Each lesson has contributed to creating a nurturing and supportive environment for my children. As I continue to learn and grow, I carry these lessons with me, knowing that they will guide me through the joys and challenges of raising a family . (Photo by Jurien Huggins /Unsplash)

When a black woman with a shaved head, high cheekbones and a red lip graces your FYP, you stop and you listen. On this particular day, it was Sunday Times Bestselling Author, journalist and podcaster Candice Brathwaite . Her lighthearted insight takes on the plight of black bodies, primarily Black women, whose style tends to not fall into the category of what is considered chic. In this particular video, Candice says: Having some thoughts. Hmmm. Is it chic or is it just on a white, thin body? Been seeing a lot of these "Things I Find Chic" trend videos. Do you know what I find chic? Gold grills, baby hairs, a colored wig slayed to perfection, crop tops, booty shorts, a shit ton of gold jewelry (I wanna hear you jingle jangle), a trim with some good waves, a good red lip, a great fake lash. Hmmm. Is it chic or not? or is it just on a black body so you wanna say it's ghetto. I don't know. but I'm just not feeling the 90s beige nail, silk scrunchie. I want more, and more and more. Candice brings up a subject that has been addressed on a multitude of levels and platforms with minimal change. This inquiry cuts to the core of a problematic history with cultural appropriation, selective approval and the double standards within the fashion and beauty industry that often marginalizes Black women and their contributions to style. Far too often, trends pioneered by Black women are often dismissed as “ghetto” until they are repackaged, and worn by individuals who do not know of or understand the cultural origins . It is only at that point this style becomes “chic.” The evidence of this is everywhere—trends that originate in Black communities being frequently co-opted by the high end fashion industry, only gaining widespread acceptance and praise once they are deemed palatable for a certain audience. This is not by coincidence, but rather by design and it is par for the course. For instance, Candice mentions things she finds chic—colored wigs, a shit ton of gold jewelry, a trim with some good waves— and let me add a nameplate, long acrylic nails, braids, cornrows, nail art and hoop earrings to name a few. These are elements of style that are deeply rooted in Black culture, yet they are often stigmatized when worn by Black women. Once these same elements are embraced by the fashion industry, they are suddenly seen as trendy and avant-garde, receiving praise from designers, and down to influencers who capitalize on trends they probably do not identify with. The problem here is not the adoption of these styles by others, but rather the erasure of the Black women who have long embraced these trends and the way their contributions are often ignored or trivialized. This is not just about fashion—it’s about the way we are made into guests looking in even when we are the originators of these trends. Next in Fashion Season 1 /Left in yellow, Farai Simoyi and next to her Kianga "Kiki" Milele I remembered watching season 1 of Netflix's Next in Fashion with competitors Kianga "Kiki" Milele and Farai Simoyi . These two accomplished women—one of whom Kiki, a pioneer in street/urban wear—were tasked with creating a streetwear-themed look. This episode was one to be seen, because the judges placed the team last on the totem pole, except for Haitian-American guest judge Kerby Jean-Raymond , founder and creative director of New York-based label Pyer Moss  and Vice President of Creative Direction at Reebok . Farai addressed the decision by countering with this: We were given street wear and we designed from our perspective and the thing that I've noticed in the fashion industry is it's mostly one voice that's heard. The high-end brands and designers are taking ideas from us very single day. And it only becomes cool when it's high end. For a lot of us, minorities, the underpriviledged, we want you to see us , but it's so hard to be seen. It's really frustrating.… Now whether or not you liked the looks they created, that is a different story, but she was correct in everything she said in front of the judges. Needless to say, her plight wasn’t heard, but if " all heroes don't wear capes was a person ," it would be Kerby. He disagreed steadfastly with the conclusion brought forth by the other judges that their design was the worst and stated they he liked their look. He also gave us insight into his journey and how difficult it was for him to break into the fashion industry. Kerby eventually walked off the stage refusing to return. There was no elimination in that episode, but this highly uncomfortable and controversial situation gave us a look into the fashion industry's issues with race, particularly with recognizing the contributions of Black women designers. Another great example is the infamous Boxer Braids controversy. The issue again wasn’t that the Kardashians wore the hairstyle—it was the repeat offense of Black culture being mined for its creative output by the fashion and beauty industry. People can wear cornrows and braids every day of the week if they would like to, but this "trend" is not new to us, nor do we need celebrities and influencers who aren't discriminated against for their hair to tell us what is hot or not. It was only in June 2019, after years of advocacy, that The CROWN Act (Creating a Respectful and Open World for Natural Hair) was implemented. This law ensures protection against discrimination based on race-based hairstyles by extending statutory protection to hair texture and protective styles in the workplace and public schools. The CROWN Act is a significant step forward, but it also underscores the fact that Black women have had to fight for the right to wear their hair naturally—a right that should never have been in question. The reality is that Black style is the nexus of fashion. We are the source of many trends that have taken the world by storm and we deserve our flowers. The tide has been turning and with the rise of social media and the increasing visibility of Black creators, there is a growing awareness of these issues. Black women are reclaiming their contributions to fashion, demanding recognition, and challenging the industry to do better. As we move forward, it’s important to continue this conversation and to ensure that Black women’s voices are not only heard but celebrated. Chic is not determined by who wears it—it’s about the creativity, confidence, and culture behind the style. We've been chic all along. It is they who need to catch up. (Photos: Woman with red lip @candicebrathwaite/Instagram, a woman in cornrows @jordandunn/Instagram, a woman with pink hair How Black Women Pioneered Nail Art/Boulevard, final photo Next in Fashion Season 1 /Farai Simoyi and Kianga "Kiki" Milele)

School is around the corner and we are all gathering or putting the finishing touches on supplies, clothes and shoes. If you're a parent, one of the biggest life savers and time savers is getting hairstyles that can last at least a week for your child. Some hair types can be easily be done in the morning with just a brush of the hair and minimal product, but for children with thicker, curlier and coarser hair, this takes time. So for all the moms who have kids with this hair type, this one is for you. Here are 4 hair styles that can be done by you or a stylist to make your mornings smoother. Afro Puffs . My daughter's go to. They're the easiest and my favorite because there is so much you can do with styling them. Start as always with very well moisturized hair. Part to your desired number of puffs, comb through the full length of the hair and fasten with elastic rubber bands to keep the hair together. Use a wide tooth comb to further detangle and add shape to the hair. To maintain the look, put a silk bonnet or silk scarf on before bed and refresh with water and a moisturizing agent in the morning. Box Braids . Box braids are my absolute favorite, because there is so much versatility and a great look for every occasion. This will always be a hairstyle, not a trend . They have stood the test of time for a reason. This hairstyle tends to last a good two weeks to two and half weeks if I am pushing it with my daughters. I like a feed in version which always gives a more natural look. It also the base for a braided updo and bun. Cornrows . By the age of 13, I was already combing my own hair for school and cornrows were my go to. Much like box braids, cornrows last at least two weeks, and do especially well with the addition of small amounts of braiding hair to the natural hair. It's a great style and again has great versatility in terms of shape, size and appearance. Double Twists . Another cute hairstyle that can be adorned in whatever suits your little one You can start with rubber bands at the base or no rubber bands. Medium sized to small twist last longer. Style with clips and headbands. Always a great look. As a parent, having one less thing to worry about in the morning makes for a smoother start to the day. It's okay if you can't do the elaborate Pinterest hairstyles that you see. Once you cover your bases, getting creative becomes easier. What is your go to style for your children? (First and third photo by @braidiish/Instagram, second photo Adobe Sock, fourth photo @braidedbyher/Instagram, and last photo @mylaily3/Instagram)

Being a substitute teacher was not something I planned, but rather a role I fell into. I know this is a temporary stop in my journey, and it is one of the best decisions I have made. Prior to coming into this position, I was recovering from post concussion syndrome due to an encounter with the trunk of my car on a rainy October night. This not only caused the worst pain I ever experienced in my life, but also exacerbated the symptoms of my fibromyalgia . I was having frequent medical appointments not only for myself, but also for one of my daughters who was going through her own health crisis. This caused me to request quite a few late arrivals or early dismissals at my previous job. I was also experiencing bouts of chronic fatigue and brain fog that made concentrating at work difficult. I felt depleted and defeated to the point where I felt I could no longer fulfill the demands of my position. I finally made the decision to hand in my resignation and that was the best decision I made. I had no idea what was going to happen next, except I was tired of feeling unfulfilled. I was ready to start something that gave me true flexibility, autonomy, and where I wasn’t being made to feel that I wasn’t good enough. I was drawn to substitute teaching based on a combination of my life experiences, personal values, and a desire to make a difference in the lives of young people. What better place can I make an impact and feel some semblance of control in my day to day life?! Here are the reasons I have chosen to be a substitute teacher. Familiar Territory . When I first moved to the United States, I worked as a nanny/babysitter for about ten years before moving into the corporate world. I still remember the money I made working in that role! That’s a story for another day. When I finally decided to cut the cord in childcare, I had different aspirations. I envisioned a more conventional career path, one that might offer more stability or higher financial rewards. But life has a way of steering us in directions we never anticipated. My journey into education began not with a career plan, but with a series of small, seemingly unrelated experiences that planted the seeds. When I worked in childcare, people frequently stopped to ask if I was a teacher. I quickly quipped no and I have no plans of ever going into such a thankless role. Boy, did the future have a big surprise for me. When my children started school, I always wanted to be actively involved in their school life. I attended all the parent teacher association (PTA) meetings, joined the Equity Committee and the Student Leadership Team (SLT), all of which were meant to empower parents and our school community. At the time, I thought of it as just another way to give back to the community—a way to fill my time with something meaningful. But what I didn’t realize was how much those interactions would impact me. I also showed up to read to my daughters’ classmates, help at breakfast and was even the unofficial face painter at some activities. The way they would be so excited to see me when I came in gave me such joy. These small moments began to add up, and I found myself looking forward to my time with them. A Desire to Make a Difference . As I continued to work in the committees and with the kids, I saw the gaps in the education system more clearly. As we discussed subjects of equity and helping in the recruitment of students and staff of a more diverse population, I saw that schools need individuals who genuinely care about the success of their students. This realization sparked something in me. I began to think about how I could play a larger role in the lives of students, how I could help bridge those gaps, and provide the support they so desperately needed. That’s when the idea of substitute teaching came into play. I thought about it, but the timing wasn’t right. I was contemplating a move with my family to another city, so the salary from my job at the time was a necessity. Once I moved to my new city and tested out a new job in Human Resources, I resigned from that role. This was now the perfect time to pursue substitute teaching. This opportunity allowed me to be in the classroom, interact with students, and make an impact, all while giving me the flexibility to explore my options. Flexibility and Freedom . One of the biggest appeals of substitute teaching is the flexibility it offers. Unlike a full-time teaching position, which requires a long-term commitment to one classroom and a specific curriculum, substitute teaching allows for a more varied experience. This was particularly appealing to me as someone with an unpredictable chronic illness and the co-parent of young children who does not have a support system around us. As a substitute teacher, I have the freedom to work across different grade levels and subjects, which has given me a broad perspective on the educational system as a whole. One day, I might be teaching elementary school students how to add and subtract, and the next, I could be discussing Shakespeare with high school seniors. This variety keeps the job exciting and allows me to continually learn and grow as an educator. My partner and I were able to coordinated our schedules where he would do morning drop offs and I would do the afternoon pick ups. I appreciate not having to rush out from work to pick up my children. I am able to easily cancel jobs when crises or health matters arise without feeling like I was causing massive disappointment to my colleagues. Additionally, the flexibility of substitute teaching has allowed me to pursue other interests and commitments outside of the classroom. Whether it’s furthering my education, working on personal projects like this blog or spending time with family, substitute teaching provides a work-life balance that is often hard to find in other careers. Building Relationships with Students . One of the most rewarding aspects of being a substitute teacher is the relationships I’ve been able to build with students. Though I may be in different classes every day, I’ve found that even in these brief interactions, there’s an opportunity to make a meaningful connection. Amazingly, the group of students I feared the most—high schoolers—have turned out to be the most rewarding. There’s something special about being the “new” teacher in the room. Students are often curious and eager to see how the day will go, and this gives me a unique opportunity to engage with them in a fresh way. I’ve learned that being a good substitute teacher isn’t just about following the lesson plan left by the regular teacher; it’s about bringing your own energy, creativity, and compassion into the classroom. Over time, I’ve developed a knack for quickly reading the room, understanding the dynamics of each class, and finding ways to connect with students. Whether it’s through a shared interest in sports, a love of books, or simply taking the time to listen to their stories, I’ve been able to build rapport with students that often leads to positive learning experiences. I remember one particular instance where I had a particularly difficult third grade class. The disruptions were out of control. There was a group who were amazing, but a few others who were arguing with each other. I was in my second week and completely unprepared for that. By the end of the day I was able to pull everyone together to listen to a story time that they very much enjoyed and participated in. Moments like these remind me of why I chose this path. Facing the Challenges . Of course, substitute teaching isn’t without its challenges. There are days when it feels like everything is going wrong. These days can be frustrating and leave you questioning whether you’re making any impact at all. But I’ve come to realize that these challenges are part of what makes the role so important. Being a substitute teacher requires adaptability, patience, and resilience. It’s about being able to walk into a classroom of strangers and quickly establish a sense of order and trust. It’s about being willing to learn on the fly and not being afraid to admit when you don’t have all the answers. Personal Growth and Fulfillment . Substitute teaching not only allows me to make a difference in the lives of students but has also been a profound journey of personal growth. It has pushed me out of my comfort zone, challenged my assumptions, and taught me more about myself than I ever could have imagined. It has also made me a more confident public speaker, with a level of assertiveness that I never had before. Through this role, I also have a deeper understanding of the lives of children and teenagers. I’ve come to appreciate the diverse backgrounds and experiences that students bring to the classroom, and how these differences shape their learning. I take pride in trusting my judgment when it comes to my interactions with students, especially when all they need is a little empathy. Moreover, substitute teaching has given me a sense of fulfillment that I hadn’t found in previous jobs. There’s a unique joy in knowing that, even if it's just for a day, you’ve made a positive impact on a child’s life. Whether it’s helping a student grasp a difficult concept, offering a word of encouragement, or simply being a positive presence in their day, these small acts add up to something much greater. I’ve come to appreciate the unique position that substitute teachers hold—we’re not just fill-ins, but integral parts of the educational ecosystem, providing support and stability when it’s needed most. Most importantly, it has shown me that sometimes, the best decisions are the ones that aren’t planned. It has given me my life back in a way that I could not foresee. Even though this may just be a pit stop, I will value the lessons that this profession has taught me. I will continue to make a difference—one classroom at a time.

Let's face it, most of us are not living aesthetically pleasing Instagram and Pinterest worthy lives. Life is messy and we don't have the time or the money to spend on a ton of clear plastic bins to unpack prepackaged food. Though the display is beautiful, it isn't realistic or practical, neither is it easy to maintain. Furthermore, where is the room for the left overs, because with the price of food, who is wasting any for a pretty fridge? As gorgeous as these Pinterest and Instagram refrigerators look, I want to get to the lives of everyday people. The ones with families who go in and out of their fridges, with condiments on the door and a kid who occasionally has to go in there. So in a attempt to get back to reality, here are a few tips on how to organize a fridge for everyday living. Start Fresh: Clean and Declutter . Before you dive into organizing, give your fridge a thorough clean. Remove all items and check expiration dates. Dispose of anything that's expired or spoiled; that includes the condiments that haven't been used in six months just sitting on the door. Get rid of them. Wipe down the shelves and drawers with a mixture of water and mild detergent. Really get into these compartments and ensure that any dried up liquids are thoroughly cleaned. This creates a clean slate for your organizing efforts. Categorize and Prioritize . Think about how you use your fridge and categorize your items accordingly. Common categories include: Dairy Products:  Milk, cheese, yogurt. Fruits and Vegetables:  Fresh produce, herbs. Meats and Seafood:  Raw proteins, deli meats. Condiments and Sauces:  Ketchup, mustard, salad dressings. Leftovers:  Cooked meals, takeout containers. Drinks:  Juices, sodas, water. An extremely important point is to decide which categories you use most often and should be the most accessible. If you have little ones who are able to get things out of the refrigerator on their own, be sure to keep that in mind when organizing. Their safety when getting things out of the fridge is super important. Utilize Zones . Organize your fridge by creating specific zones for each category. Since fridges are not all the same, you would need to decide based on available space on each shelf what goes where. This isn't set in stone, but simply a recommendation based on the temperature of each zone. I think top and middle shelves are flexible. Top Shelves:  Ideal for ready to eat foods such as cooked meats, prepared salads and packaged foods. These areas tend to have the most consistent temperature. Middle Shelves:  Store dairy products here. These shelves are usually the most stable in terms of temperature. Bottom Shelves:  Best for storing meats and seafood, as these are the coldest spots in the fridge. Crisper Drawers:  Use one drawer for fruits and the other for vegetables. These drawers are designed to maintain different humidity levels to keep produce fresh. Fridge Door:  This is the warmest part of the fridge, so keep condiments, sauces, juices, and other items that are less sensitive to temperature fluctuations here. Implement Storage Solutions . I recommend investing in a few clear, stackable bins and organizers to help keep items contained and visible. Consider: Adjustable Shelves:  Maximize space by adjusting shelf heights to fit your needs. Baskets:  Ideal for fruits, vegetables, or small items like cheese packets. I don't recommend labeling of these containers because I believe in flexible use. Since they're clear, the family can see what goes where. For items that need an expiration date reminder, I recommend using a sharpie to remind everyone. Practice the FIFO Method . FIFO stands for "First In, First Out." Place older items in front and newer items in back. Much like your supermarket, you want to ensure that you use up older items before they spoil, reducing food waste and saving money. Regular Maintenance . Set a reminder to check your fridge weekly. Rotate items, check expiration dates, and clean up any spills. This routine maintenance helps keep your fridge organized and your food fresh. Make Use of Fridge-Freezer Space . If you have a separate freezer, use it wisely. Label freezer bags with the date and contents, and use bins to organize similar items together. This makes it easier to find what you need and keeps your freezer running efficiently. A well-organized fridge isn’t just about aesthetics—it’s about efficiency, saving time, and making your daily life easier. By following these tips, you can create a fridge that works for you, making meal prep smoother and reducing food waste. Happy organizing! (Photo of refrigerator from Frigidaire)

We are at the end of August and this week has been one filled with final preparations for the return to school. At this point, I am more than ready for them to get back to school. We had fun, but I know they are ready to see their friends and start with a whole new group of people. I will also be back at work as a full time substitute teacher in our local high school. I want to make their last weekend fun so we are going to walk from Cohoes into the historic town of Waterford . We will also be heading to the Troy Waterfront Farmers Market . I plan on finishing the final season of Ugly Betty for the umpteenth time as I keep getting a different viewpoint every time I watch. Literally on of the best shows ever. Selling Sunset is coming back soon, so I am patiently waiting for a bit of drama, fashion and beautiful homes. I ended up making a batch of brown butter cookies with my darling older daughter today and two loaves of homemade bread. If you do end up making anything this weekend, happy baking or cooking. Goodbye August and welcome September. If you would like this brown butter cookie recipe, leave a comment. (Feature photo Mohamed Noassi/Unsplash)

Learning to be a parent is an acquired skill. It is one where you learn through trial and error with love and empathy as your guide. Before I became a mom, I worked as a babysitter for a little over ten years. One of the things that I learned very early on and took into the way I parent is this; when a child is having a tantrum or meltdown in public, this is the moment to exercise shutting out the world with tunnel vision and focus on the needs of your child. I’m sure you’ve been in a situation where you have either witnessed a child having a massive meltdown in public or you yourself have been on the receiving end of that behavior from your child. I implore to every parent in that moment to be unconcerned about what others think. I repeat, please do not think about how your child is making you look . If your child is having a tantrum or a meltdown, especially without causing harm to others or damaging property, do not be concerned about what others think of you in that moment. This is the time for you to shut out the world, employ empathy and focus on meeting the needs of your child. I can’t tell you how many times that I have gotten children to calm down in diabolical situations. When a child is going through a really deep emotional situation, it can become easy to trivialize it in other to downplay what has happened. What may seem small to you is so big to your child, and for parents tempted to reenact their own childhood, I want to ask, “Do you think your two, three, five or seven year old is really trying to embarrass you?” Start with a Hug . Tantrums and meltdowns are usually a cry for help, a need for support or a time for parents to reevaluate their methods. I know some days are hard, especially if you have multiple children. I get the pressure of being a primary care taker, but I encourage parents to take those moments when your child is having a deeply emotional moment as a time to connect. You can start with simply giving your child a hug if they’re ready to receive one. No words are needed. Sometimes you may need to move to a quieter space in that process. Just the comfort of a hug can go a long way into helping your child feel that someone cares and understands what they are going through. It may take some time for the tears to slow down, but again, those two minutes can make the world of a difference. What if you are in a rush or in and unsafe situation like driving, I encourage you to get to a place of safety or pause to give that much needed attention. As you work on getting to a place of safety, you can reassure your child that I hear you, and I’m not ignoring you, I just want us to get to a safe place. Then proceed to engage in this simple act of love and kindness. Talk About It . If your child is old enough to engage in some dialogue, ask if they want to talk about it. Children tend to be extremely honest and are usually ready to share. Take that time to engage in active listening which gives you a chance to hear your child’s point of view, so that you can now respond with empathy. Don’t be quick to say anything, or it can sometimes be felt as criticism, but rather respond with short phrases like, “ I hear you ,” “I understand,” or “I see why that made you mad.” Sometimes as parents we want to move past the feelings and get to the teachable moment. I have to be honest, I am guilty of doing that sometimes, but I had to learn sometimes, listening is all a child need. They don’t need a speech. Before getting to that teachable moment, be sure that you are truly hearing and listening for the purpose of connection and not simply to respond or be reactionary. Be Solution Driven . Now that your child is hopefully a little calmer, again, shutting out everyone’s glaring eyes, take that moment to find solutions. What I liked to do was ask them “How can I help?” You might ask, why would anyone ask a two year old how can I help. All I can tell you in my over ten years of being a babysitter and nine more being a mother, do not underestimate the minds of children. They are creative thinkers if you give them a chance. This is a time to teach your children how to be solution driven rather than simply focusing on the problem. Teaching kids to ask for help and to rind solutions for themselves is ultimately the golden standard that you want to set for children. You will be surprised that by the time they calm down that the problem doesn’t seem to even exist anymore. They can also by then figure out a way to soothe themselves without even needing your help. With almost twenty years of being around younger children, this simple but effective strategy has worked like a charm. As we know, life ebbs and flows, but consistency helps children build trust and security in their caretakers. Knowing that they can feel safe with their emotions is the foundation of all future communication between children and their caretakers. There is also something special about zooming into the needs of your child in those moments of distress. You get to see a child trust you more realizing that you made the time to connect with them rather than be upset or scold them for very normal behavior. By the time I got to my own children, I had perfected the art of shutting the world out, because in those moments, what I continue to realize is that what my child needed was me.